Accidental pregnancy (advice needed)

I have 3year old boy toddler and I just gave birth to my second child in January 2025. In September 2025, I learn that I am pregnant again. This pregnancy is really an unexpected one. The one that shock me and one that I wasn’t ready for because I’ve just gave birth 8 months ago. At the same time, I am returning to my ex company and starting a new job role (in October 2025) and with this news I really do not know how to feel and what to do. I sure have to wait till the end of the 3month probation but I am not sure when exactly I should tell my superior or HR. And whether this will affect my performance review/confirmation. I am concern of what the colleagues would say about me. Please advise what I should do, anyone.

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I can really understand why you're feeling overwhelmed right now, especially with the job timing. Legally you don't have to tell your employer until you're ready, but most mums find it helps to disclose once you're past the first trimester so there's less uncertainty for everyone. The thing is, every company handles maternity differently, so it might be worth having a quiet chat with HR to understand your specific entitlements and how they usually support pregnant staff, rather than worrying about what colleagues might think. A lot of workplaces are more supportive than we expect, and honestly you've got bigger things to focus on right now than office gossip. For now, maybe take things one step at a time and see how you're feeling physically and mentally in the coming weeks, then decide on the disclosure timeline that feels right for you.

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First of all congratulations on the third one and congratulations on the new job! :) I've also started a new job as well and found out that I was pregnant even before my probation ended. How your boss, HR, colleagues react to your pregnancy is something you can't control. It all boils down to company culture at the end of the day. Some people do not show until in later stages of their pregnancies so you can actually choose to reveal later on, once you are settled into your job. Hope this helps!

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