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like what 👇 said, seek help. i also almost got PPD with my past depression history. but i didnt open up to my husband. we fought alot bc he didnt help or wake up even when baby's crying. i cried so much during my confinement bc im doing everything alone. but i have some knowledge abt PPD. i tried to be calm first before attending to baby. while feeding and baby still crying inconsolably, and you losing your anger or whatever, put baby down for max 30secs and cool down and take a very deep breath , while patting baby (don't just ignore baby crying). when baby sleeping, do whatever you want. nap, cook, netflix. you deserve me time too. try to put sleep schedule in place. since baby still young, dont be so strict on it. be flexible as they are still adapting. After a while, they will get use to the schedule and you can rest better. all these helps me to cope from falling into PPD, bc getting a specialist for myself is high risk getting medicated and im against it.. but you can seek help from specialist and if theres other better options. as for your husband, if he thinks you hold baby wrongly, then ask him to feed baby instead. why can't he help then aiyo. also check if baby is colic anot for interventions. that also tires to alot.

You are Not useless. It's normal for Baby to cry and normal for husband and wife to panic. At times, I also panic more than my wife at times during our Baby's first month. Talk to ur husband when baby is asleep. If he doesn't listen, Reason back, don't shout or scream, it only ends up in Quarrel. Also talk to your parents or immediate family members, get help to prevent verbal and physical abuse. You don't deserve abuse for giving birth to your baby. Stay safe and maintain the family harmony in a soft way - Remember everything you do is for your baby and the family. As a last resort, If all fails, seek legal help: https://www.aware.org.sg/ But don't suffer in silence - you don't deserve that.

Hey Mummy, also good to check these: Is the bed or environment where baby is being fed or sleeping dusty, dirty or too hot or too cold or too noisy? Or have hidden dust or insects that not visible to human eye unless we the adults check in detail? Is baby feeling very warm or hot? Is baby being wrapped too thick? Is Baby's clothes too thick? Do you cover baby with thick blanket when feeding? Maybe baby feel hot? Also when feeding, does baby sweat or feeling warm or hot at Baby's forehead, back and the back of her head? If yes, try cover Baby's feet with a thin blanket instead of thick blanket, try to carry baby in a position where aircon air or air from the fan circulation can help to keep baby cool, especially Baby's head and Baby's back. Adjust the Aircon temperature to suit keep baby cool, not too hot not too cold, ideally 26°C to 27°C. This is what my mother in law & wife do to keep our baby cool. Note: don't blow aircon in Baby's direction, let it circulate. Otherwise later

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I think u should seek help cause I think he is getting a little abusive. Physical abuse started very minor like pushing or pinching or slapping. If u don't fight back, they think it's okay. But if u fight back, it may trigger them to hit you more. Better u seek help, please tell your family members. You are someone's daughter and you should be loved. Please stay safe and take care

Dear mummy, sorry to hear that. I am sure you are trying your best to be the perfect mum to your baby. You are definitely not useless! Do not be discouraged. All babies has their 'cranky' period or drinking style. It's normal. Have you tried talking to your husband? Any reason why is he saying or doing such things to you?

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I am SO PROUD of you for taking the first step and voicing out. As a woman you already Awesome! Remember this, nobody can make you feel any less or useless UNLESS you let them. So stand firm and if you are afraid remember you are not alone. Report abuse to AWARE call the AWARE Helpline at 1800 777 5555

Pls take care, seek professional help if u need. I almost fall into depression cos i was so tensed and stressed up with my crying and clingy baby. Slowly spent more time with your baby and try to understand. Not easy! Definitely take some time. Stay strong mummy!

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That's being very verbally and physically abusive. If he wasn't like that before, perhaps he also have post natal depression. Seek help and advice, call the PND hotline. Don't suffer in silence. You pushed out a baby! Nobody should say you are a useless person.

Tell him to take over you if he can do a better job. I am the father of my son and I know how much a mother has to go through on a daily basis based on what I see my wife doing. Being abusive is absolute rubbish.

You are not useless and in fact you should be proud of yourself. Why not ask your husband to show you the correct way to feed your bb since he got so much comments on you doing it right or not. cheer up and jiayou mommy

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