I am a first time mum, my pain tolerance is super super low to the extent when drawing blood I feel pain for the insertion or injection by requesting & using the smallest diameter needle. Docs and nurses often teased me for being such a baby. Recently I started to have a lot of phobias for delivery pain. Initially I was very worried but now I am having a freak out even I have scary dreams about the painful labour process lately. Now I am really constantly thinking of the pain that a pregnant mum (referring myself) that I have to endure and go through in future. I told my mum and mother in law about my serious fears regarding the pain. Mother in law told me the pain is not the dilation or tear in vagina, the real pains are the contractions throughout the 10hours+ duration. Is this true? Or the pains are when the baby is coming out of the vagina? I am so scared mummies! Pls help me. Pls tell me what to do because I am really extremely scared of the pain. I don't know where exactly the pain comes from and how to overcome them? Should I just go for C-sect to end the painful process for someone like me who is so afraid of pain? But I wanted a faster recovery so thinking of going for vaginal delivery with epidural. I heard epidural is a pain reducer, not a pain reliever. And I am very worried I am going to suffer prenatal depression right now. How or what should I do to seek mental consultation to relieve my tremendous fears for pain?

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Hi there, childbirth is painful. Whether or not you give birth vaginally or through c section, there will aspects of it that will be painful -- be it the contractions, the birth or the recovery. The more you fear the pain, the more it will hurt. Don't fear it. Mind over matter. A friend of mine gave birth with no drugs and she prepared herself by attending meditating classes. Maybe you can do the same? Also, it could help to talk to a new mom who's about your age and share your fears with her. Talking to someone close to your age might be easier than an older person who might at times be quite ominous when describing their experiences.

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What are these meditating classes known as???