Managing newborn and confinement on our own

My husband and I are planning to manage confinement and our newborn on our own as we prefer it that way. I am not comfortable having someone else at home and my husband is pretty hands on with cooking and chores. This is our first child. My mom expects that we move in with her for a month for confinement as she says that she has everything at her place and she can help us with cooking, cleaning and looking after the baby. She just asked me again if I have decided to go to her place and (although she asked it as if I had a choice) when I told her that we will be staying at home she went ballistic and basically went on about how we don’t know what we are getting ourselves into. This is precisely why I prefer to stay at home as although she is helpful, she always just wants to do things her own way and can get very negative, which affects me and I know that I will be stressed if she is around. We told her that she is welcome to come over to play with the baby but I know that she is still upset that we are not doing things her way. I have purchased the 30 day herbal soups and my husband will be cooking my meals. I have also been reading up as much as I can on breastfeeding and newborn care to prepare. We are not too fastidious about the house being sparkling clean and lead a pretty no frills lifestyle. Would just like to handle this on our own terms without causing so much upset. Sigh. Any advice or stories of support welcome. Can’t really share with my close friends as they all have helper, confinement nannies and / or their mum / MILs around during the period and see it as a necessity. Nothing wrong with that definitely, but I know it’s not for me.

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me and my hubs did managed our own confinement. not strict, flexible ones. we're living with my BIL and he dont allow visitors in so no choice do ourselves. so basically for my whike 44days of pp, we didnt get any help from anyone, plus everyone in my and his family know that we're the type we dont ask for extra help. they would only call in to ask if everything's ok. i have experienced taking care of my mum's pp and my hubs is clueless. so even right after discharge, i did everything myself. which includes my food, baby changing and bath, housechores and all. till now 3m pp, im still doing everything alone while my hubs has to work despite covid19. he does help when he's free. but i rather him to rest and work, while i settle things reallll fast. yknow guys always take their time, right?😂 of course its super tiring. its been 3months pp. when was the last time i had my last good night sleep? probably when i was pregnant at 6months 😂 so I haven't been sleeping well almost 6months.on top of that, ive started working back at night shift. but now my 3m babygirl has grown up and her milestone is incredibly fast, everythings worth it. worth all the tiredness, sleepless nights and all. its okay to manage your own confinement. after all only you and hubs know better. but do seek help when yall need. as much baby is important, your mental health too is important. take care mummy. all z best ❤️😘

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