husband wants to live separately from famimly

My husband and I have been married for about 4 years and we have 2 children, one baby and one toddler. Like any household, we don't always get along perfectly, but I thought that was normal. However, lately, my husband has seemed quieter and just says "yes, yes" to everything. Two weeks ago, he was transferred to another office (the distance is kind of in between, not close but not too far either). Yesterday, he said he wanted to rent an apartment near his office because he's tired of commuting back and forth. After digging deeper, it turns out he feels physically tired and... tired of coming home to a messy house. Seeing me and hearing all my stories of the day (I’m a housewife). Not to mention when I get angry. He feels that he can't focus and work optimally at the office. He said he would come home on weekends, but during weekdays he wants to stay in the apartment... I’m sad and confused. I understand what he’s saying about our house always being messy because we have two small children. I do always talk and complain a lot. I also often unconsciously get angry with him, maybe because I'm tired from taking care of the house and the kids all day... He somewhat blames this for his failure to get a promotion to a better position. He says his mental state is somewhat affected. It seems he’s not really fond of young children. Do you think it’s normal for a husband to want to live separately from his wife and children?

Vô danh

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Hi there! I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. It's understandable to feel sad and confused about your husband wanting to live separately from the family. It sounds like there are a few things going on here that need to be addressed. Firstly, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about how you're feeling. Let him know that you understand his concerns about the messy house and your complaints, but also express how his decision is affecting you and the children. Communication is key in any relationship, so try to find a way to work through these issues together. It might also be helpful to consider seeking outside support, such as marriage counseling or therapy. A professional can help both of you navigate through these challenges and find ways to improve your relationship. In terms of the messy house and your complaints, maybe it's time to reevaluate your daily routine and find ways to manage the household responsibilities more efficiently. You could also consider setting aside specific times to talk about your day with your husband, so it doesn't feel overwhelming for him. As for his mental state and feeling affected by the presence of young children, it might be worth exploring why he feels this way. Perhaps there are underlying issues that need to be addressed or maybe he needs some time to himself to recharge. In conclusion, every relationship has its ups and downs, and it's important to work through these challenges together. It's not abnormal for couples to face difficulties, but it's crucial to find ways to address them in a healthy and positive manner. I hope things improve for you and your family soon. Stay strong! https://invl.io/cll6she

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