Feeling down and resentful towards husband.. going to work soon (part time). Need somewhere to rant

Husband earns a lot more but still expects me to contribute proportionately e.g I contribute 1k and he contributes 4k. We are still paying mortgage half half. I just feel resentful because I know people or friends where husband will just pay for everything.. but we have joint acc so we just use from there. Trying not to be calculative since we are saving for a house where he’ll paying more since he has more savings but just can’t help it… Also feeling more down everyday.. can post natal blues be so late? About 3 months plus already

Vô danh

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I suggest speaking to your husband if you feel that you are not able to contribute for whatever reason, coz you also wont want things to swing the other way where because your husband pays for everything, your relationship dynamic changes and he becomes the one with power coz he pays for everything. If you pay proportionately to your income,I think that is fair, unless you're going to be a stay at home mum, then that's a different story altogether. I earn slightly less than my husband,but our contribution is 50-50, because I expect him to help out at home and with the baby 50-50 too, so I make sure things are as fair as possible. This works for us, so you'll have a find a way that works for both of you

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