Highly anxious 2nd time pregnancy after first miscarriage

Hi all. Had my first pregnancy that ended with in a miscarriage last year July. Back story: had my first obs appt, did a scan and doctor said it’s small, but doctor didn’t say how many weeks. I assumed it was around 8-10weeks from LMP. Doctor didn’t say much except will see in 1 week but didn’t even make it to 1 week when I started heavy bleeding and had a miscarriage a couple days later. It was traumatic and so heart breaking as I wasn’t aware I was going through miscarriage. I felt so alone. Just found out I’m pregnant mid Jan with the second pregnancy. Had my first obs appt yesterday and doctor said foetus is very small likely is 5weeks. Now that made really anxious and stressed out as same words were said abt the first pregnancy but doctor again didn’t say much just said see in 3weeks. Got home and I just bawled until I slept. The fear got over my emotions. Events of the first time just played again. I’m really worried. My heart feels broken already. Just wondering what I could do at this point. I really pray this baby grows in the next 3weeks or it will be another heart wrenching event. 😢

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Hello dear, First of all, congrats on your pregnancy! Secondly, *hugs*. I know how anxious you might be feeling right now. it reminded me of when I miscarried in July '22 a few days after my hubby's birthday (he was absolutely devastated), and got pregnant again in January '23, 6 months later, basically about the same timeline as you just different years apart. Every time I visit the toilet, I'm anxious to see if I had any bleeding. This continued all the way till week 12 (the mark where MC happened). It was a very concerning period for both my hubby and I however once the first trimester passed, our worries faded away slowly, but not completely, until my babygirl was born. I understand how worrying it could be and I wanna let you know that you are not alone! Seize the day one day at a time and try to distract yourself. Just know that this is NOT your fault. Hang in there and all the best ❤️

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