Highly anxious 2nd time pregnancy after first miscarriage

Hi all. Had my first pregnancy that ended with in a miscarriage last year July. Back story: had my first obs appt, did a scan and doctor said it’s small, but doctor didn’t say how many weeks. I assumed it was around 8-10weeks from LMP. Doctor didn’t say much except will see in 1 week but didn’t even make it to 1 week when I started heavy bleeding and had a miscarriage a couple days later. It was traumatic and so heart breaking as I wasn’t aware I was going through miscarriage. I felt so alone. Just found out I’m pregnant mid Jan with the second pregnancy. Had my first obs appt yesterday and doctor said foetus is very small likely is 5weeks. Now that made really anxious and stressed out as same words were said abt the first pregnancy but doctor again didn’t say much just said see in 3weeks. Got home and I just bawled until I slept. The fear got over my emotions. Events of the first time just played again. I’m really worried. My heart feels broken already. Just wondering what I could do at this point. I really pray this baby grows in the next 3weeks or it will be another heart wrenching event. 😢

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Hi there! Firstly i would like to say congrats and that you are truly not alone. I too, had a first pregnancy that ended with a miscarriage last year June. I rmb there were alot of back and forth hospital visits during those painful weeks when the doctors keep saying it’s a 50 50 chance. Also started spotting and although my foetus grew a little, there was no heartbeat. It ended up into painful abdominal pains, heavy bleeding and a miscarriage :( Didn’t want to try again since that event but I just found out that I am pregnant a few days ago when my period was late. I have yet to schedule a first appointment however I am super worried that my first appointment will end up the same like last year. I know it’s hard to stop overthinking but i hope you’re taking good care of yourself, both physically and mentally. Wishing you all the best and praying for your wellbeing! You’ve got this mama. Hugs! 🙆🏽‍♀️

hi dear, congrats! do stay calm and not stress nor worry yourself out okay. avoid overthinking about it, keep praying that it will all be alright. this is my second pregnancy after my first stillbirth and im anxious too, however this time take care of mind and body okay. keep reading prayers and rub your tummy too :)

Many hugs to you ❤️

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