Feeling frustrated

Ftm here. Due in Jun. I have already paid deposit for a confinement many with an agency and in the process of hiring a helper. Both husb and me are working full time and our parents are sickly. So we have no help at all. Been reading reviews on nanny and helper and now thinking if I should just risk it and DIY instead of taking the risk that I might have 2 more trouble instead. My husband is the lazy, unhygienic type. He can't even wash anything properly. Caught him not using any detergent when washing utensils. He just rinse his cup with water. My nepresso milk frother had stains after he claimed he had washed it. I am not confident of the helper although interviewed her twice. She has a child but her child was brought up by her mum as she went to another state to work one month after giving birth. Lastly I feel that the house is so small already.. 90sqm. It is starting to get so cluttered with all the baby stuff. How can we accommodate 3 more pax...

Vô danh

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I think a confinement nanny is a must in your case. Baby drinks every 2h if you breastfeed (3h at most if you bottle feed). Not forgetting in the first months, baby poops after every meal, so that's like a cycle - feed, change diaper, put baby to sleep, and repeat. No time for you to get proper rest that you need postpartum (please prioritize your recovery so that you can look after everything in future). If you don't have enough rests/sleep, you cannot do any other things (like household chores) too...... I agree with another mommy, to try interview another helper.

Gena Wong

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Chores that nanny helps with: washing clothes, washing bottles and pump parts, cooking nutritious meal for your postpartum recovery, bathe baby, help with baby needs apart from breastfeeding at night. (If you go through agency, I think there is policy to ask for replacement should you face trouble with your nanny, so don't be afraid to feedback to your agency if need to). Helper: don't think we can expect them to look after newborn baby + housework, it will be too much. So purely housework, and maybe learn a few techniques from nanny on baby care so that she can help you out after confinement.

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