hand me downs

Maybe I’m just spoilt, but while I appreciate others’ kindness to pass me hand me downs (they don’t owe me anything) but I will appreciate even more if they could just don’t pass me anything if they are not in good condition? I don’t mean that they need to be in tip top conditions, but I have a cousin who passed me a playpen that has changed colour n has patches of what looks like mould. And my husband’s Friend gave us a bag of clothes that has stains all over n some even with holes? And when I didn’t want to keep these items, my Husband is upset at me because I’m ungrateful n spoilt. But seriously, how to keep a playpen like that for my Daughter to play in n how to let her wear such stained clothes with holes? In these cases, I rather they not give me anything so I don’t have to get into a quarrel with my Husband!