I hate my postpartum body

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Hey everyone,I hope youre all doing well. I wanted to reach out because Ive been feeling down lately, and I could really use some support from fellow moms who might understand what Im going through.I recently gave birth to my beautiful baby, and while Im overjoyed to have this little bundle of love in my life, I cant help but feel incredibly unhappy with my postpartum body. I know its normal for our bodies to change during and after pregnancy, but Im really struggling to accept the changes I see in the mirror.Before pregnancy, I used to feel confident and comfortable in my own skin, but now I just feel self-conscious and ashamed of how my body looks. The stretch marks, the extra weight, the loose skin... its all been really difficult for me to come to terms with. There was a short period of time when I even hated my baby for this. I felt like hes the one causing all these stress for me. I find myself comparing my body to other moms who seem to have bounced back so quickly after giving birth, and it only makes me feel worse about myself. I know I shouldnt be so hard on myself, but its hard not to feel this way when society puts so much pressure on women to look a certain way, especially after having a baby.I want to be the best mom I can be for my baby, but its hard to feel confident and empowered when Im constantly battling negative thoughts about my appearance.Has anyone else experienced similar feelings after giving birth? How did you cope with them? I could really use some advice, encouragement, or just someone to talk to who understands what Im going through.

Vô danh · Answer

Yup. I gained 18kg during pregnancy, and after giving birth, my weight didn't even drop coz of water retention. Those first few weeks were tough. I looked and felt so swollen and big. I stopped looking too closely at the mirror, coz I felt that bad. About 2 weeks later, the water came off, so at least I wasn't that round anymore. After that,breastfeeding helped reduced the weight. However, even if I went back to pre pregnancy weight, the waist didn't go back haha. I tell myself tt the shelf tt I have now helps to prop up my baby when I carry him , so that he doesn't slip down. My boobs have also sagged a lot and I am honestly quite sad, but I keep reminding myself that they have nourished and kept my baby alive and well, and to be thankful for them being able to produce milk.