Ask the Expert Series: How to Overcome Relationship Problems After Having a Baby

Hello everyone! Excited to “see” you! I am Audrey Loo, Naluri Mental Health Coach. Together with the team at TAP, we would love to help as many of you manage your relationship after having a baby. Want to feel loved and connected to your partner? This expert session will help you build and keep a romantic relationship that’s healthy, happy, and satisfying. 😍😍Love and trust each other, Always be open 😍😍 ------------------------------------------- Here are some questions asked in our community, and we got the answers for you ✅ 👩How can we build a better relationship after childbirth? 👩‍⚕️ Here are a few ways of strengthening your relationship: 1. Acknowledge change - It's okay to take time to grieve and to adjust to this change, but don't forget to celebrate you and your partners wins! 2. Find humour in everything - This will not only help strengthen your relationship but will also help you get through those tough moments. 3. Keep your physical intimacy alive - Even if you can’t have sex now, you can still hug and kiss! This may not come naturally to new mums, but allowing yourself to rest in your spouse’s embrace can do wonders. 4. Quality time - It is important to have meaningful conversations and time together, even if it's for 5 minutes! Check-in and see how their doing and share how you are feeling too. 👩How can the husband support wife overcome this? 👩‍⚕️ There are several ways you can support your wife, but here are a few: 1. Remember to take care of your own physical and mental health - this is very important! 2. Read up and learn more about postpartum mental health topics, such as postpartum blues/ depression/ anxiety, in case your wife may be showing signs and symptoms. 3. If you have noticed that your wife is struggling, please approach her mindfully and do not force her to seek support if she resists. 4. Don't forget to hug her often, help her out around the house, and remind her of your love and care. 5. Be patient with yourself and your wife! It may take some time for your wife to adjust to this change, but try to remind her of your love for her and take the initiative to suggest ideas for you to bond again. 👩 Should we still do regular date nights? 👩‍⚕️If possible, yes, yes and yes! Time and energy may not be plentiful during this time, so set new realistic expectations and find creative ways to connect! This could be as simple as doing chores together or taking 5 minutes out of your day to check in on

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Is it normal to dislike your husband after having a baby?

Audrey Loo

Naluri Mental Health Coach

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After having a baby, your focus will shift to caring for your baby, which can affect how you view your husband. It is also very common for partners to face more conflicts. In my personal experience, I became more irritable with my husband after giving birth. I realised that this was because I deeply care about my baby, that I only felt safe in trusting MY way of caring for him and led me to forget that my husband also wants the same thing. So, whenever differences in caregiving methods arise, even for simple things like the brand of wet wipes used, I felt unsupported and thought that he was testing my patience. One thing that I’ve learnt is that you may disagree with your husband’s way of raising your child, but remember that you are on the same team and that you both want the best for your child. So, the next time your husband suggests something different than what you would usually do, go easy on him and yourself, and try his way of doing things. You never know, he might surprise

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