Depression And Trauma Throughout Pregnancy

Ever since I know about my pregnancy as early as 5 weeks, major trauma event and decision happens along the way till today at 33 weeks. As much as I know being stressed and depressed will affect the growth and health of the baby. But things and event are out of control. Families are negative on my decision to marry my current husband who had cheated on me and giving me std and risk of hiv knowing that I'm pregnant at 8 weeks. The thought of abortion was pretty high and some close friends strongly encouraged me to. I struggle on making the decision till the abortion day I decided to tell the doctor that I will not proceed with the abortion. I choose to forgive and move on together with my current husband. Getting Married and making things simple as much as we can, but parents demand photoshoot, simple dinner and 30k dowry. This journey have more down than ever in my life and dramatic events kept on coming. I'm very worried that the impact of all the events affecting my baby and I only manage to get help at 28 week in nuh. As much as I need to be happy, calm and stress free but there is so much I can do. It comes to a point I'm really depressed and even having suicidal thoughts.

Vô danh

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BIG HUGS Mummy! I can only imagine what your stress is like. Women tend to think with their hearts, but it's times like these we need to think with our minds as well. Try and eliminate what you can't afford. Some things to think about: * is the father going to be an involved father if you choose to go ahead with a marriage? * would you get the physical/mental support of both families when you marry? * could you bear the burden if your baby is born with HIV, or any other STDs? * have you sought out other options/opinions with your gynae? Your health is just as important. Please take care. HUGS!

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*big hugs back* Initially when doctor told me that my hiv results is faintly positive, I was prepared to go for an abortion. So I waited for the final results of the western block and turns out to be negative and that's where I decided to move forward and sort things out with the father. We eventually got married ASAP as my parents didn't want my tummy to be too obvious but my brother told my parents everything about what my husband did and there were more stress added to me with the constant blame and criticism I get from my parents. I couldn't be more emotionally tired. Both side of the family are not giving any support so we are really depending on our own. The most is my mum is able to help me out with the confinement. Financially they didn't wanna help and pressure me to ask him for monthly instalment of the dowry and having me to pay the bills when I'm not able to work. Baby is actually affected by the constant stress and its underweight where doctor told me I might be in the hi

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