In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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Staying with mil or own mother , to me , it doesn't makes any different .. follow ur guts .. its ur baby .. my mum suggested to give a diluted Cerelac + milk but i don't want to take the risk as my 2nd girl was 4 months at that time .. Now , my 2nd is turning 6mo on the 11th so i can slowly starts on solids ... Staying with them also helps financially so we don't need to hire a caregiver to look after the kids ... my 3yo girl is entering N2 next week and im working in a 3-shifts environment while my husb is a delivery driver ... my mum helps to look after my 2nd IF i send my older one to school .. you do you , mummy ... if u think sending them to the infantcare , go ahead as it also helps ur baby to adapt to school environment one day later .. whatever they advised us , take it easy and think on the bright side .. they prolly meant well for us too .. we'll never know .. :)

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