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It is quite impossible to raise a child without yelling as we, as a mother also experience temper sometimes, especially when feeling extremely tired. Please do not feel guilty after yelling and blame yourself as this is part of the parenting. However, make sure that you explain to the child and apologise if necessary to the child aftermath. There are some strategies for your to keep away from yelling. E.g. paste simple notes on places that are noticeable and to remind yourself when you are about to 'explode'. I read a lot of parenting books, it is not easy to put them in practice especially when you are exhausted. However, over the time you are able to become better at self-anger management control. It takes time to learn slowly. Here is a book that can guide you on how to parent without yelling.
I wish I could say no but recently I have started yelling a lot. I regret it later and also seek forgiveness from my kid. All becomes fine after each yelling episode, but I think I am damaging the psyche of my kid. I am working upon it. And I tell my kid that each time I start yelling you stop me in between and tell me, "Mamma, do not yell because after yelling you feel bad and ask for my forgiveness. And I also feel so bad and hurt each time you yell at me." He has interrupted me a couple of times I am in this fit of yelling, and I have calmed down. One time, I stopped and looked at him and we both burst into laughter, and I hugged him. So, I am changing. http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/could-you-go-a-week-without-yelling-at-your-kids
I've always thought that screaming is part and parcel of raising children but since moving to Sweden, I have not seen a parent raise their voice to their kids - not amongst my group of friends, not in public or not even in school. I was told that yelling at children can be constituted as abuse? I don't know how they do it but it must take alot of patience to be able to not yell when they are frustrated.
Yes I did. I used to yell at the top of my voice Everyday. Till I came across a website called pink rhinoceros. It is a challenge that mummy take up not to shout at their kids for 100 days. The founder of this website found out that in fact kids are more scared when we speak softly to them. TOP voice is only for dangerous situation like kids dashing across the road or in dangerous situations.
Sad to say but, yes! I am not proud of it as I try to control myself not to raise my voice at my child however, when I am too tired from work and he's really uncontrollable with his tantrums, I just can't help it. But after that, I always explain to him why I yelled at him and I don't want to do it again because I love him so much, and I want him to be a good boy always.
Hi Ruby , For me, I felt it is unavoidable. We will always feel guilty after that session. I think after we cool down, try to sit down with the kid and explain to them why we are doing that and apologies to them. Therefore they will learn to apologise to others and also understand what is our intention too. It is really not easy. .we all been through that
I do. But honestly, I feel so much guilt whenever I yell at my 3-year old son. I just think he doesn't deserve to be yelled at no matter how hard headed he is. He's too young for that but I can't control my temper at times. I don't know.. I just feel I'm a very mean mom whenever I do that. :(
Definitely! There WILL always be times when my kids drive me up the wall. When you've lots of work to complete and having to deal/discipline with squabbling kids, you'll break. And when that happens, I'm sad to say that you'll become a mad woman...
I know the bad effect but I can't help sometimes. My young man who is 9 this year is getting difficult to handle. I would say he has his own opinion which is good, but it also make me sad most of the times.
Of course! When I lose my cool. I caught myself many times yelling at my boys. But! All is well, God sees us through and I am repenting and learning. Lol. Ahhhhhh. Gotta learn to bite my tongue.