Maybe I should not have had a kid?

Yes and no. My 2 children has changed the relationship between my husband and I. We had our 1st kid (unplanned) 3 years into our marriage and I wished we had more time to enjoy time as a couple and see more of the world. But money was tight and got even tighter after having kids so my regret was not being able to enjoy life as much as if there were no kids in the picture. Having said that, having 2 smiley faces beam at u first thing in the morning and happy cries of "Mummy" when they see u after a long day...the feeling of love is unexplainable.