Did you and your husband have a "chat" about how to parent and come up with some basic ground rules -- about bedtime routines, how to say no, discipline etc...or did you just play it by ear? I find that my husband and I often have very different perspectives on things like who should our kid have a playdate with, outdoor vs indoor time etc...how did you resolve your differences?

We never had any rules set for parenting, just took it as it came each day. Of course, there have been differences in our parenting style but to our credit whenever one parent has tried his/her parenting style the other hasn't interfered. We both are "cool" and not paranoid parents. We both have given our kids choices, let them learn, have treated them as individuals. I am the disciplinarian whereas my husband is the softie!