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Sino ang pipiliin ko

Im 30F his 45M. His my first bf , father of my child. Lahat up & downs , surpassed mga cheating nya at ako. Lahat tlga nabago nya at ako. Ako sa financial lahat , house xa. Ako nasusunod nmn lahat siguro kasi ako may work. Dahil my needs din xa as tao kahit naman mga wife ganun my basic needs so ako rin sa eye glass sa ipon damit ganun. Pinili ko un eh kasi mas malaki ako kumita. But as time goes by kahit na good nmn xa sa bahay naasikaso ako parang boss at asikaso anak ko plus 3 kapatid ko nasakin ako bumubuhay. Nawala ung confidence ko sa kanya. I even tried to say magwork xa to help me pero like sinasabi nya magttry xa pero d xa gumagawa. Nakipaghiwalay ako at nkita ko sobrang broken nya. I gave him ung motor at pero 150k para makapagstart. Almost 1year na wala pa rin xa work at kumikita sa bigo live lang. I am still hoping namagbago xa gusto ko mabuo family anak ko at namimiss ko rin paano nya ko asikasuhin pero ung thought na ganun xa financially ang hirap tlaga. D rin nagbbgay samin sa anak nya kasi wait ko daw makaahon xa slowly nabalitaan ko na may kausap xa na babae. Gusto nya ung tatanggapin kung anu ung kaya nya ibigay na serbisyo at magtulungan sila like bakit ganun ako? I still cling sa feeling na kung pano ako ka emotionally feeling safe sakanya i can talk lahat at iniintindi at asikaso nya ko akala ko xa na talaga pero ako napagod tapos ako nakipaghiwalay pero im still hoping. Fastforward may bf 25M nako His family dont approved sakin as i have so many baggage 1child 3siblings ngproposed na rin 6months na kami. He provides na sakin full cost sa finances sa bahay kahit wala matira sakanya , financially wala nmn problem pero pag may problem is wala xa bilib sakin kaya bahay lang ako gusto nya sa lahat pagprovide maging housewife lang ako pero hirap hingian for my basic needs nmn. Emotionally unavailable siya, always work pagkakaperahan isip. Pag i talk about how i feel he invalidates me like always feelings ko nmn his doing his duty naman daw . His trying naman i can feel it kahit di xa sweet talaga pero his trying. Mali magcompare walang perfect i know. I feel more safe sa ex ko emotionally meron ako peace of mind but im in my maculine energy na i need to provide financially as long as d xa magstep up. But with my current fiance , i dont need to work for money just work for his parents approval or his attention. I need some advice hurtful man of what i need to have others perspective din kasi may heart n mind magulo.

Anak, this is heavy and I'm glad you're thinking it through carefully, hindi ito decision na dapat mabilis. Pero honestly, I have to say: this isn't really a "which guy" question, it's a "what do I need for myself" question , and that's the one you need to answer first before choosing either. A few of us mums in our circle have been in similar spots, and the pattern we've seen is, kapag nag-jump tayo from one person to another without fixing what's broken inside us first , we end up repeating the same hurt, just with different faces. Both situations make you feel needed in ways that aren't healthy , your ex made you the provider while he struggled, your current one wants you small and dependent. Neither one is actually meeting you as a whole person who deserves peace AND security AND emotional safety AND to be valued. You deserve all four, hindi ka dapat mag-pick between them. Before you decide, maybe talk to someone you really trust, or even a counselor if you can, about what you actually need to feel whole, independent of what either man can offer. Because right now, it sounds like your heart and mind are pulled in different directions, at ikaw ang nasisirang-sira. That's the real issue, hindi kung sino ang pipiliin. You're strong, you're a provider, you're thoughtful, pero you also need to be loved as you are, not despite your situation. Kaya mo yan.

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i had an Dilation and curettage 4weeks pregnant that time. i thought i made a decision na to seperate sa fiance ko but when he found out sa nangyare ngpunta agad. Kita ko naman bumabawi siya talaga may ugali lang din talaga sya pag galit masakit magsalita . At eto ako naging marupok. My fault is alam ko naman sinabi din after D&C grabe pagkahorny ko as in. Ilan days palang napapayag na nya ko mag do. at grabe siya sunod sunod na putok sa loob kasi ayaw nga ko magpills nakaka dagdag sa depression daw yun. 2weeks after pa naman ako mag oovulate sabi sa google ganon. Dec 2 ako na D&C now 10days nako nakailan na rin kami. Anung contraceptive kaya okay maliban sa oral kasi lakas tama ko? I am so undecided at iba hormones ko na now iiyak maging okay ganun.

Aw sis, totally get how you're feeling, those hormones after D&C are real , and it's okay na marupok tayo sometimes. Kaya mo yan, don't be too hard on yourself. So marami sa amin, lalo na yung ayaw ng pills dahil sa side effects, sige sa copper IUD, walang hormones, one-time lang insert, tapos lasts up to 5 years na. Grabe siya effective, and a few of my mum friends swear by it dahil wala kang daily maintenance or hassle. The only thing some mums mention is yung periods might be slightly heavier or crampier for a bit, pero it settles eventually. Kung gusto mo ring non-hormonal pero less invasive, condoms + spacing/timing (since you know you ovulate around 2 weeks out) could work as backup while you decide. Pero honestly, since you just had D&C at sobrang triggered ka pa emotionally (totally valid!), worth mo talaga pag-consult sa OB-GYN mo mismo, she can check if your cervix is ready for IUD insertion at i-explain ang best option para sa your body at situation. Kaya mo ito.

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