Sad that i ended up with csect

Hihi, don’t be too sad. I think I’m almost the same situation as you. Failed induction and my cervix failed to open quick enough resulting in emergency c sect. Just want to say I’m almost 2 months PP now and recovery takes time. Initially I was like you and was feeling anxious about recovery but let me reassure you, your wound needs time to recover. When I was 3 weeks PP, I was still hurting very badly everywhere. I described giving birth to people as getting run over by a lorry. Now at 2 mths PP I am very much used to the scar tissue there doing light massaging (circular motion touching the overhang) does help relieve the sensitivity and numbness of the wound. I have stopped relying on painkillers and my binder. It does bother me time to time again but it isn’t as bad as how it used to. Just like a scab from a wound healing. Initially I was also hoping for natural and I cried so much in the delivery ward when the doctor told me that we have to go for c sect. But I found out that the recovery is actually not as bad as I have imagined. Listening to my mummy friends who have been through vaginal births they also have a certain recovery period as well. And I’m just happy I don’t have to be traumatized every time I go pee/ poop post delivery because of stitches down there. Yes, I’m also quite sad that we have to wait 2 years before we can try for next baby but that also mean we can have more time to spend with our current born (which is also my first born) so I’m not complaining. I am also very petite and was stuck with a mom pouch for awhile. It takes time. Only until recently I’ve started to see a difference. I waited till my 6 weeks gynae check for my gynae to give me the go ahead to start my postnatal massage. After massaging and binding you will see results in your tummy flattening and I’m starting to feel happier that I can start fitting into XS clothes again. Going through c sect doesn’t make you less of a mom/ woman. Be it vaginal birth or c section birth, going through delivery itself makes you a great mother. Remember, you brought your baby into this world. Whichever way, it is painful and not easy. Like they always say ‘stop saying c section is the easy way, when it is the only way for me to bring my baby into this world’. I wish you the best as someone who has been through this. Give yourself some time. Recovery takes time. Don’t be too anxious and rush it because I was just like that. Trust me in saying that it it will get better.

Hey lady, don’t be upset. I had the same wish as you - natural birth. But I’m diagnosed of IUGR (small baby) and my daughter refused to turn head down (in breech). For her sake, for me to quickly deliver her into the world and feed her well, I opted for cesarean. I recall having to take 2 steroid jabs on my thighs to boost my daughter’s lungs since she won’t be going through natural delivery. That pain was nothing. My husband wasn’t with me in the op room due to COVID restrictions, but I told myself to be brave. It’s all for my daughter. And waiting for 2 years before conceiving again is perfect, trust me. You would want to spend more time with your firstborn until the next one comes. My cesarean pain also took about 3 weeks plus to go off. I remember I had to ask my hubby to assist me down the bed whenever I need to go to the toilet. You’re the queen, just ask for help whenever you need something. Rest well during confinement so that you can play with your child after the nanny is gone. Yes, it’s true we’ll be carrying the huge saggy tummy for a longer time compared to mummies who had natural delivery but so what? I’m also a skinny mom by the way, and I held my pride. That’s our trophy. After my maternity leave, colleagues asked if I’m pregnant again and I told them no, I just haven’t slim down and get rid of those tummy fats. But after a while they would stop asking. And honestly, I took 2 years to lose that tummy without any exercise. Now I’m back to my old self and ready for the next. I am going to opt for VBAC this time (unless there is unforeseen circumstances again…) You’ll enjoy spending time with your LO more than anything else. What’s utmost important is that our child is healthy and we’re safe. Don’t think too much. Be happy. 😊

First foremost congratulations on your new bundle of joy. However, please do not be disheartened with the end outcome of your birth journey. Trust me, no one wants to have their birth plan method fail. No one at all. Hence, please don't feel guilty neither bad about what happened. All human body are different and how the medication works/react on our body are also different. Therefore don't be disheartened. Ended in emergency C section to save you and baby is the most important not the birth choice plan. It has happened and be thankful God save you/baby. Focus on the proper confinement and recovery and try to do the best you can. Eventhough it is not easy, the will power has to be strong. I am on vaginal birth but it wasn't easy. My recovery took long too due to swollen at my stitches. I have difficulty to pee/poo. It is dreadful no kidding. My first and my second pregnancy gap is 5 years. As first time mum after this birth, maybe if you are pregnant again you may wish to have a VBAC journey. This is call Vaginal Birth After Caesarean. Slowly mummy, take it slow and steady. Healing properly is most important. I am petite standing at 155cm and I have Mummy pouch. Visible and hard to let go, FYI. So not just C section mum has it, but me too.

Why so negative? I opt for c sect and I couldn’t be any happier. Believe in the law of attraction. Your thoughts will lead to the similar results. As hard as it may be for you now, learn to be appreciative that your baby is born healthy and your body is healing and you will eventually be able to take care of him/her. Things don’t turn out the way you wished for, you’re entitled to feel upset about it. But all the negativity you’re cultivating is not going to do you any good. Regain yourself, for the sake of your baby.

I was quite upset when I first csec 7 years ago but on second thought, healthy baby is still the most important cos I was having a breech baby. I think no need to wait for 2 years, 1 year is sufficient. I got 3 boys all delivered by csec and being healthy is the most important. Maybe check with your gynae when you go for your appointment and if really too painful, go earlier to check on your wound. It shouldn't be so painful after 3 weeks

i had cs too... dont b disheartened... stay strong 💕