My husband thinks I'm not helping out at home enough.

This is usually the kind of fights I have with the hubs once every couple of months when he's "freer". Long story short, I have an "autopilot" husband. That means on work days, and his days working from home are pretty hectic with meetings and stuff, so he doesn't do shit in terms of housework. But when he's on leave, and I decide to take a break from picking up after him - suddenly he's the only one doing all the work. This applies whether I'm 27 weeks preggers or not. It's like the last 6 months of you not on leave, the house auto cleans itself. And in the span of 2 weeks, you do everything, and I'm stressing you out because I'm not helping. Anyone's hubs is like this too? If yes, how do you deal with it? I came up with a solution and told him we should just keep score. Text when someone does a chore. But he thinks I'm throwing a tantrum. I just don't want to repeat this same bloody fight over and over again. #pleasehelp #advicepls #preggymom

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The house belongs to the both of you, whoever cannot stand the mess then do. Noted that you’re currently pregnant, maybe let him know you would like to take the easier chores like laundry and vacuuming while he do the mopping and thorough cleaning till you give birth? If he still want to be calculative, then tell him, since you carry the baby, give birth to the baby while he only donate his sperm, then he want to fully pay for baby’s expenses or let baby follow your surname instead? I wouldn’t recommend your solution, its no end and doesn’t work. Split the job, if cannot take it that one party do lesser than the other then hire a part time cleaner.

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