Today my daughter told me this, "Aiya,my friends will not come to my birthday party one la, cos I don't have any friends." My heart broke silently. She has always had difficulties making friends in school. She's the one who changes best friends everyday. And hangs out with girls from another class because the other girls in her class doesn't wan to hang out with her during recess time. Every parent teacher meeting, her teachers will bring up the subject of her not being able to socialise well. At the age of 8, all she wants is to have her friends like her and count her in as part of the group. Acceptance. But for the past few years, she has been struggling with that. And I could see that her self esteem is slowly eroding. She has a bossy nature and I know her friends don't like it. But she's only 8. She doesn't have strong self control unlike us adults. As a mum, I want so badly for her to feel accepted. Trust me, I've told her and taught her about controlling her bossy nature. I love her for who she is, her bossy nature cos she's a great leader. And I dont know what else I can do to help her. I'm just sharing this here cos I can't share on Facebook. I hope I have the wisdom to teach her to love herself no matter what.

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Sorry that your baby has to go through that. I can only imagine how she feels. I was kinda ostracised when I was in primary school as I was more academically smart than most in my class. My life and friends dramatically improved when I enrolled in drama society and debate society, and my closest friends till now are the friends I made in debate society. So my advice to you is to sign her up for ccas that she can make friends in. Should be a Cca that she feels passionate about and can obsess over. She will either fall so in love with the "art" or she will make friends who are equally obsessive about the subject matter, and they can bond over that.

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