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Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's completely normal to have questions and concerns about sex during pregnancy. It's great that you're reaching out for advice and support. During pregnancy, it's common for women to experience a decrease in libido due to hormonal changes, fatigue, and physical discomfort. On the other hand, some women may feel an increase in sexual desire. Every woman's experience is unique, so there's no one-size-fits-all answer to how often you should have sex during pregnancy. It's important to listen to your body and communicate openly with your partner about your needs and concerns. If you're feeling tired or experiencing discomfort, it's okay to take a break from sex. Your husband should understand and respect your boundaries. In terms of safety, if you've had bleeding or cramping, it's important to follow your doctor's advice and take it easy. Your doctor is the best person to advise you on when it's safe to resume sexual activity. Generally, for a low-risk pregnancy, it's safe to have sex throughout the entire pregnancy unless your doctor advises otherwise. If you're feeling pressured or uncomfortable, have an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns. It's important for both of you to feel supported and understood during this time. Remember, there's no right or wrong when it comes to sex during pregnancy. Trust your instincts, communicate with your partner, and prioritize your own well-being. Congratulations again, and best wishes for a healthy and happy pregnancy! https://invl.io/cll6she
We did a few times till second trimester (as tummy was getting bigger and I felt more uncomfortable laying or moving around with that tummy) then stopped for 2 years (both of our energy were drained out). I see the bed I just KO directly already. It is okay as long as you’re feeling okay and most importantly no bleeding or complications from having sex. Tell your husband he can jerk it out in the toilet or something on days that you’re not feeling it, it doesn’t necessary have to be in the hole. Moreover, gynae asked you to rest. You have an entire lifetime to have sex, it won’t kill to wait for abit….. Nobody dies from not having sex. 😅 (Once again, this is not a hate comment, just solely what I would tell my husband 😂).
Hi, sorry to hear abt your situation 😭 my sex frequency decreased significantly ever since i got pregnant (currently week 22) and I’m bummed. We used to do 1-2 times a week before pregnancy and now it’s like maximum twice a month. For some reason sex is painful for me when i become pregnant. Fortunately my husband sex drive is not as high (or maybe he jerk off frequently from porn and idk) and I do allow him to buy sex toys such as tenga. He rarely asked me for sex as he doesn’t want me to feel discomfort. Even when I offered he will check in on my condition first. I suggest you to have an honest conversation with him because he cannot only consider his own needs at the expense of your discomfort.
my husband does not seem to be into sex eversince i got pregnant. He feels uncomfortable. compare to my previous pregnancy, we did almost 1 week 5 times or even more depend on our mood. i remembered after i delivered, 2 weeks later when i under confinement, he kept touching and ask if i ok to have sex. as my delivery was smooth with no stitches i allow him. he find it more relax to do after i delivered. i enjoy sex very much and does not mind giving my husband as long as he want. as we grow older u will feel that either u nor partner no longer interested. worse part your husband will find other if he did get his desire fulfill.
My sex life has almost been non existent. Less than 10 times throughout my whole pregnancy and I’m 37 weeks already. My husband could not even get hard, maybe because of my belly that puts him off because we didn’t have this issue before. Our sex life is and still suffering. It took a toll on how I felt on my body and cried after sex a few times when we did manage to have sex :( struggles that nobody talks about…
U can have sex as many times as long as ure comfortable. Tell him not to worry abt saving up so much. He will still be horny later. I think you should talk to yr husband abt how ure feeling about this. It’s not about him anymore. This is the time to focus on you. I know u feel bad towards him but no choice. He needs to understand that its not all about him. Its the time he should be focusing on you and your health.
For pregnant women, i guess so long as your body is fine, you can have sex when you feel like it. For myself, hubby doesnt initiate it while i do.. He's afraid of mishandling me during the process and will settle for a quickie with me😅 I'm into my Wk 15 now, and we only had two sessions ever since we discover the pregnancy. I guess it also stresses the man at times..
it took me and husband 5 years ttc before im finally pregnant. im in my 3rd trimester now, with twins and our last sexual intercourse was in my first trimester. we agreed that we shouldnt take the risk cus we waited so long for a baby, i was afraid id bleed, he was having doubts about penetrating. before we got pregnant, we had sex 3 times a week.
My sex drive was through the roof during the first and second tri, but my husb wasn't feeling it cos he was scared 😭 so we did it once during my second tri. Now that I'm a few days to giving birth, we'll be doing it a few more times as we heard it triggers labour. But at this point I'm just too tired to get in the mood 😞
For my first, as my pregnancy was a smooth one, we did not restrain and did it whenever we feel like it. But for my 2nd, we did not do the deed in the first trimester due to my 2 miscarriages prior. Both my hubby and I agree tt we don't wanna take the risk. Once my pregnancy was stable, we started it again in the 4th mth.