My son is going 4 months and I am going back to work on Monday. When I start work, I will be leaving my son with my mum at her place. Thus, these few days I have been bringing him there hoping to get him to be use to the place. He is not unfamiliar with the place cos occasionally we will go there for dinner and anyone in the family can carry him. My mum has been seeing him frequently ever since he is born. However, these few days when he is there, he seems to know that I am going to leave him thus he will cry and cry, refused to be carried by anyone except me. When my mum is carrying him, he will cry looking for me. Once he sees me, he will stop crying. It breaks my heart to see him crying so badly. Anything I can do to make him settle down better at my mum's place?

Several options are available: Always say goodbye. Kiss and hug your baby when you leave and tell her where you're going and when you'll be back, but don't prolong your goodbyes. And resist the urge to sneak out the back door. Your baby will only become more upset if she thinks you've disappeared into thin air. Keep it light. Your baby is quite tuned in to how you feel, so show your warmth and enthusiasm for the caregiver you've chosen. Try not to cry or act upset if your baby starts crying – at least not while she can see you. You'll both get through this. The caregiver will probably tell you later that your baby's tears stopped before you were even out of the driveway. Once you leave, leave. Repeated trips back into the house to calm your baby will make it harder on you, your child, and the caregiver. Hope it helps.