How do you deal with this?

Question

Recently, I opened up to my husband that Im emotionally tired of quite everything di ko rin alam e ang tagal ko sigurong tiniis lahat ng kailangang tiisin then one day boom, pagod ka na. Then just yesterday we got into a fight and he bursts out as well na pagod naman sya physically. I tried understanding and helping him outbursting but nadedrain talaga ako ng mabilis ngayon so I tend to be numb and be hypersensitive about his actions. Mommies how do you deal with these situations?

Maria Reyes Garcia · Answer

Sis, that burnout is real and it hits different when both of you are running on empty, parang two tired cars trying to push each other up a hill, di ba? A few of us mums go through this cycle where we suppress everything tapos one day wala na, and honestly the best thing we found is to have those conversations when you're both NOT in crisis mode, like over coffee or after kids are asleep, so you can actually hear each other instead of just reacting. I get the numb and hypersensitive thing because your nervous system is just screaming for a break, maybe check in with a doctor or counselor din if you can, because emotional exhaustion like that sometimes needs professional support to reset your mindset. What helped my circle was setting micro-boundaries too, like even 15 minutes alone to just breathe, or asking hubby for specific help instead of expecting him to read your mind when you're both depleted. You're not alone in this, promise, maraming nanay dito nag-struggle with the same thing, kaya be kind to yourself while you work through it with him.

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