Disappointed in parents

Random, but i just feel the need to rant somewhere. Have you guys felt disappointed or little resentment towards your parents during or after your pregnancy? Ever since the start of my pregnancy until now, 33weeks, my parents has never really asked me about my well being or about baby’s well being. Its always im the one that need to randomly update or tell them. Im staying with my in laws, and im always the one that need to visit my parents house, they have never once asked me to come over or try to visit me or ask me out. They also always tell me to msg them whenever i want or if i need something, when we meet. But whenever i msg them, specifically my mum, be it normal msg to inform something or to rant about something thats bothering me, she always never reply. Mind you, shes almost mostly on her phone. As of now they also never like buy things for me or baby, or like chip in to buy baby stuff. Not a single thing. Fyi i am the first in family to be pregnant this will be their first grandchild. I just feel and wished that my parents wouldve given me more support or so. Cause i feel like im not their daughter ? Pls dont me to tell my parents or talk to them abt this cs im not the type to let out my feelings and itll be awkward if i do so. Aside to this, is it normal to feel that pregnancy can be very lonely ? Like nobody feels you or understand you and you kind of expected mroe support but never really get it. Be it from husband or others. It feels like im going through this journey alone. And people just want the outcome, which is the baby, they never really care about the journey or process that youre gg thru. #FTM

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How’s your communication and relationship with your parents before your pregnancy? If you have been rather independent and the meet ups are not very frequent, they might have thought you are fine and don’t want to disturb you. Prob they are also the more quiet type who don’t express their feeling much. Maybe you can make use of this chance to invite them over to your house for a gathering before giving birth. It’s a chance to bond before you are busy with your newborn and get some moral support from them. Them seeing you at 33 weeks with a rather big bump might make them realised that their grandchild is coming soon. Whatever it is, dont let these feelings make u stress and affect your emotions. Ultimately this is our own baby and our responsibility.

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