Disappointed in parents

Random, but i just feel the need to rant somewhere. Have you guys felt disappointed or little resentment towards your parents during or after your pregnancy? Ever since the start of my pregnancy until now, 33weeks, my parents has never really asked me about my well being or about baby’s well being. Its always im the one that need to randomly update or tell them. Im staying with my in laws, and im always the one that need to visit my parents house, they have never once asked me to come over or try to visit me or ask me out. They also always tell me to msg them whenever i want or if i need something, when we meet. But whenever i msg them, specifically my mum, be it normal msg to inform something or to rant about something thats bothering me, she always never reply. Mind you, shes almost mostly on her phone. As of now they also never like buy things for me or baby, or like chip in to buy baby stuff. Not a single thing. Fyi i am the first in family to be pregnant this will be their first grandchild. I just feel and wished that my parents wouldve given me more support or so. Cause i feel like im not their daughter ? Pls dont me to tell my parents or talk to them abt this cs im not the type to let out my feelings and itll be awkward if i do so. Aside to this, is it normal to feel that pregnancy can be very lonely ? Like nobody feels you or understand you and you kind of expected mroe support but never really get it. Be it from husband or others. It feels like im going through this journey alone. And people just want the outcome, which is the baby, they never really care about the journey or process that youre gg thru. #FTM

Vô danh

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Hugs. I feel you during my 1st pregnancy at first.. it would be their first grandchild too. I had to live with my parents bcus my hse was not ready then. My parents even smoke around me because they kept forgetting i was pregnant.. when i cleaned and sterilised the whole house for arrival of bby, they didnt help me. They didnt ask abt my check ups or anything either. You see bcus im the youngest, it has been awhile my parents been ard babies or pregnant. My inlaws were busy with my SIL who was also expecting and would be giving birth before me, that is considered their 1st grandchild.. i felt v unsupported from both sides. Thankfully, my hubs was sweet and when i shared my woes with him he helped alot. And when bby finally came out.. my parents changed the most. It took some time but they changed. They only smoked in their rooms (it was still their hse after all), subsequently they quit. They helped me with bby when i need rest.. they brought her on walks. Now 1st one is almost 5 and they gimme weekends off sometimes as they bring her out. Im expecting my 2nd one and they come over to help. So things do change. Maybe they need to really see bby to feel it ♥️ even new mothers take time to develop bond with their newborn so many others need time too.. In the mean time, focus on yourself and rest as much as u can!

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