Disappointed in parents

Random, but i just feel the need to rant somewhere. Have you guys felt disappointed or little resentment towards your parents during or after your pregnancy? Ever since the start of my pregnancy until now, 33weeks, my parents has never really asked me about my well being or about baby’s well being. Its always im the one that need to randomly update or tell them. Im staying with my in laws, and im always the one that need to visit my parents house, they have never once asked me to come over or try to visit me or ask me out. They also always tell me to msg them whenever i want or if i need something, when we meet. But whenever i msg them, specifically my mum, be it normal msg to inform something or to rant about something thats bothering me, she always never reply. Mind you, shes almost mostly on her phone. As of now they also never like buy things for me or baby, or like chip in to buy baby stuff. Not a single thing. Fyi i am the first in family to be pregnant this will be their first grandchild. I just feel and wished that my parents wouldve given me more support or so. Cause i feel like im not their daughter ? Pls dont me to tell my parents or talk to them abt this cs im not the type to let out my feelings and itll be awkward if i do so. Aside to this, is it normal to feel that pregnancy can be very lonely ? Like nobody feels you or understand you and you kind of expected mroe support but never really get it. Be it from husband or others. It feels like im going through this journey alone. And people just want the outcome, which is the baby, they never really care about the journey or process that youre gg thru. #FTM

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I feel you. My parents in law did not ask anything about me or my baby throughout my pregnancy. Did not offer to cook any tonic or show sign of concern. I’m scared of cats and when I go over they don’t bother to bring the cats away and allow the cats going around to scare me. I was so sick during Mothers’ Day for close to a month and we did not celebrate. After I recovered and we visited them, my MIL complained to my husband telling him that we did not celebrate MD and we should arrange to celebrate the upcoming Fathers’ Day. It’s really ridiculous because their family do not have the tradition to celebrate birthday and occasion. Right now I’ve been hospitalised for 20 days due to PPROM. They visited once without any fruits. They only came and asked about the estimated bills as I have to stay close to 40 days before it’s safe for me to deliver my baby. Their only remarks was “Wow that’s such a high cost”. Before they leave, they even request for me to pose for them to take a picture so that they can show other relatives that they did their “job” to visit as in law. This is their first grandchild and probably the only one :/ For now, I’ve gave up on them. I am going to focus on my baby and my well being! Stay positive!

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10mo trước

i dislike my in law as well. my hub is very close to the sibling but the sibling didnt even ask much about me etc since the wedding and now the preg. the thot of sharing with them the gender of baby/bring baby to their place rlly annoy me. to me they are just stranger. so frustrating. all they contribute is eye-power.