Disappointed in parents

Random, but i just feel the need to rant somewhere. Have you guys felt disappointed or little resentment towards your parents during or after your pregnancy? Ever since the start of my pregnancy until now, 33weeks, my parents has never really asked me about my well being or about baby’s well being. Its always im the one that need to randomly update or tell them. Im staying with my in laws, and im always the one that need to visit my parents house, they have never once asked me to come over or try to visit me or ask me out. They also always tell me to msg them whenever i want or if i need something, when we meet. But whenever i msg them, specifically my mum, be it normal msg to inform something or to rant about something thats bothering me, she always never reply. Mind you, shes almost mostly on her phone. As of now they also never like buy things for me or baby, or like chip in to buy baby stuff. Not a single thing. Fyi i am the first in family to be pregnant this will be their first grandchild. I just feel and wished that my parents wouldve given me more support or so. Cause i feel like im not their daughter ? Pls dont me to tell my parents or talk to them abt this cs im not the type to let out my feelings and itll be awkward if i do so. Aside to this, is it normal to feel that pregnancy can be very lonely ? Like nobody feels you or understand you and you kind of expected mroe support but never really get it. Be it from husband or others. It feels like im going through this journey alone. And people just want the outcome, which is the baby, they never really care about the journey or process that youre gg thru. #FTM

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Your feelings are valid. I feel you, my mum has been especially mean too. Asking me to F off and die further away from home so I cut her off. My step dad sent pictures of my baby to her (w/o my permission) and all she had to say is “Ha, good lor see how she take care”. Mind you, she didn’t take care of all her kids at all, we were all brought up by grandparents and helper, her job? Play computer and whack us all day if we accidentally disturbed her sleep / she woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I used to go to school with cane strokes everywhere, it’s so damn embarrassing. My husband calls me cold blooded because I cut them off even after knowing all the stuffs she did to me lol. Find a close friend that you can confide and let our all your emotions to, you will feel better. Sometimes I find that confiding to my best friend is way better than my husband who has nothing nice to say/keeps quiet like I’m to myself. Focus on your baby, ignore all the negative people. Your baby will bring so much happiness to you as they grow and best part is, they never let you feel alone and they will shower you with lots of laughter and love! Hope everything goes well for you 💪🏻.

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