marry too early

Hi all.. pls dont judge genuinely need some REAL adult advise. it was a shotgun marriage, my husband and I we were together on and off many times since we were 14yo, now 23yo. the reasons we broke off many times before was due to arguments, incompatibility. it was a spur of the moment when we said we wanted a kid and we got a kid hence marrying at 21 and a mom at 22.. during this period, my husband and I did have fun nice memories la but we both feel we r still not compatible with each other we still argue A LOT. when times r good, both of us feel happy and how lucky we r to have a beautiful baby girl. but when times r bad, I start to feel regrets for marrying him but never regretting giving birth to my baby. in all honesty, I've thought of divorcing. but I can't bear to let my daughter go thru this :( After marriage. I've been in and out of depression.. i suggested to go for marriage counselling but he doesn't want he feel we r fine. Some advice pls?? Is this just a phase? or do I just tahan for the sake of my baby?

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Your marriage sounds wonderful to me, a healthy baby and a husband that love you a lot. Thinking of divorcing or regretting of marry is normal at certain stage of life. Occasionally I will think of it too for some weird reasons (I still can't let go of my parents fully). Some aunties will also say they regret marry bla bla bla... But they never and don't let this evil thought takes away your happiness. No one is perfect for another and arguments are definitely unavoidable cos we were raised up differently. You can always see some old couples fight and quarrel everyday but they NEVER leave each other. Chinese says 磨合. Every relationship need efforts regardless it's with your friends or family. I seen my parents quarrel everyday when I was young but they would quickly reconciled after finish argued and went out for supper like usual😅 so for me argument is a way of communication . Just don't keep in heart for too long. Any choice you made earlier can be right if you put effort and wrong when you decided to give up. Marry early definitely has its own advantages. Imagine you will be 50 when your child is 30 or able to live independently. Many people want this. You don't have to worry about children education after retirement. Seek for professional assistance for depression or marriage if you think you need one. Not wrong to do that.

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