Grandma who doesn’t follow any rules

Hey other mums, how do you handle a grandma who basically doesn’t respect your parenting style and breaks all rules that you set up? For example 1. Letting your kid watch tv when she doesn’t usually get any screen time 2. Putting her to bed 2 hours after her usual bed time 3. Eating pancakes and chocolates and other junk that she usually doesn’t eat (though asks for) 4. Buys her dolls and princess toys and pink frilly clothes and calls her princess ( I am trying to raise an independent child who is gender neutral and hopefully likes STEM) My Daughter absolutely adores her grandma, and I know my mum loves my kid a lot too. But how do I get it into my mum that all of these rules in my home I set up are critical to me and whenever she “spoils” my child I end up having a tough time course correcting. Also my mums excuse is it’s fine, normal, she did it for me and I turned out fine. My argument is I turned out fine in spite and not because of all this. Plus the lack of routine, bad diets and bed times really did have a negative impact on me and has been something I have grappled with even as an adult. Pls advice. Am at my wits end and I don’t want to shout at my mum but I also know that speaking nicely doesn’t work.

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that is all what my husband do, ha3.. he breaks my rules, but I think sometimes I'm too harsh to my daughter, should let her enjoy a bit. But when I think it's too far/often, I scolded them 😄

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You really need to put your foot down and speak to her and your husband. Better to resolve this ASAP and not let it drag further.

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Yes u have to try to explain the harms of doing the above stuff and keep on reminding them. Doing spot checks at times as well.

Ask another grandma to speak to her. Sometimes information gets digested better when they hear it from a peer.

You have to sit down and be firm with her. It’s your kid, not hers.

Hemmm need to have a good talk with her

Home Random Talk other mums how handle grandma who basically doesnt respect your parenting style breaks rules that set example1 letting your kid watch tv when doesnt usually get screen time2 putting bed 2 hours after usual bed time 3 eating pancakes chocolates other junk that usually doesnt eat though asks 4 buys dolls princess toys pink frilly clothes calls princess i trying raise independent child who gender neutral hopefully likes stem daughter absolutely