Ranting about In laws

Not sure if im being sensitive. Im currently 20 weeks pregnant, and am taking a career break till I deliver. I am currently staying apart from my husband (i stay at my hs, he stays at his. He or I go over to his/my hs during weekends) as our bto is only ready next year. We will be staying at my parents hs after I deliver as my room is just alot bigger. I think I spoilt him too much by giving him too much personal space and he is dreading staying at my hs after the baby comes. I dont interact with his family that often but without fail when I go over to his house, his mum will always ask him if he is staying home or gg home with me as if she is afraid her son will be separated from her. She would keep quiet if my husband is coming over to my hs. I am pregnant for goodness sake, isnt it only right that my husband is with me? Also my sil, 40yo, who is single with no kids loves to keep asking me when am I going to go back to work, why am I not signing up for sports activities since Im very free, and commenting on my weight and size now that I am starting to have a baby bump. Its not like I wont be returning to the workforce after I deliver. Its quite annoying when I all I need now is rest and recuperation for the arrival of our baby. She doesn’t understand that I get sever cramps and aches in my pelvis and spine from this pregnancy. During today’s father’s day dinner, we went to a fancier restaurant (my husb paid) and after dinner my sil asked me if the food is good. I said yes, and she replied doesnt mean its expensive and free for you, means that the food is good. What does that even mean?? I buy them food and bring them out occasionally too. My husband feels like Im overthinking with what they say. Worse still he even asks me if it is necessary to stay with me all the time after I deliver. He is a husband that tries his best in fulfilling things that I request but sometimes I feel really frustrated with his family and him. Not sure if its the hormones… 😮‍💨

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Hi love. Firstly, Pregnancy does give you a bunch of stressed but you need to always remind yourself that you need to take a deep breath and always think about your health and your baby! Remember, it will affect your baby as much as it affects you.. Like myself, during pregnancy, i have such an amazing time with my very own parents then my in laws. In laws tend to think they know every single damn thing that is happening when in reality they dont. They tend to hold back their son even when they knew we were pregnant. I was HEAVILY pregnant when my husband forced me to go to his parents house for a visit.. not even just that, they asked my husband to follow them to JB when i told my husband, i can anytime need to be in labour, i was at 40weeks mind you. And he says with his bloody soft annoying s*** kind of voice with his sympathy look saying... "i just follow for awhile, i be back before 10pm.. i pity them.." eh bodoh.. he reached home at 3am and not even a single sorry man! Another part, he told me hes meeting his dad at 5pm because he needs to renew his mobile contract and be back at 9pm.. HELLO, its bloody 10:30pm and i called him saying "im starting to have spotting now, either u move ur bloody a** off or i shall have my mum in the labour ward with me because i might give birth tonight." He rushed and trust me...My in laws were not there during my admission before i left for my emergency csection. My parents were there thru out the entire process waiting for me. When i gave birth to my 1st born, my parents were there since 7am. And stayed with me till my in laws came and they left because my mum and dad dislike how they treated me and no signs of respect when the fact that my in laws always visited me at 8/9pm when visiting hours ENDED. Just imagine, the pain after birth, with not much of movement, iv drops on ur right hand, peeing tube around you, leg compression is switched on, you have bloody limited movement and definitely you need your husbands help right? BUT NO... my in laws even asked my husband, "u going back to our house right?lets make a move now.. which is at 11pm when at that period they force my husband to asked the nurse to bring my son out just for the sake for them to see him. My mum in law even have the cheek to bloody hell say "just take him out dnt let him stay in there for too long" first off all, thats my son, second, i need to rest and to cure QUICKLY., third of all youre not supposed to force us to call the nurse when my son is soundly asleep. My husband was a HUGE MESS GUNDU. I cried alone every night thinking what on earth is this guy doing? Didnt he realised his wife just gave birth and NEED him. Even he cnt stay overnight but we managed to seek permission for him to stay alil longer. But noooo... he happily left and say "i be early tomorror, i be here at 6:30am" but nooe he reaches at almost 9am when my parents are already here. And up till today, i was super firm with him and his parents. Like i dont care of he wanna say anything. My mum looks after my son. She looks after him super WELL! In law? I dont have the trust in them, sorry but not sorry. How can i trust them when i just fed my son, they wanted to burp him, end up my son not burping but throwing out his milk out..why? Because they have no patience and kept moving him around. And even when i wore for my son his mittens they go "what is this, this is annoying for him" they simply dont bloody understand the pros and cons of wearing mittens at all. Up till today im sick and tired of them. But what can i do? When they say stupid things, i will talk to my husband and knock some shut out of his head, and let him understand because men are SLOW. So heads up mummy! Youre not alone going thru this kind of s***! Be strong and please dont stressed urself out! Dont bother what they say because u do u. They dont earn you btw. ❤️❤️❤️

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