Ranting about In laws

Not sure if im being sensitive. Im currently 20 weeks pregnant, and am taking a career break till I deliver. I am currently staying apart from my husband (i stay at my hs, he stays at his. He or I go over to his/my hs during weekends) as our bto is only ready next year. We will be staying at my parents hs after I deliver as my room is just alot bigger. I think I spoilt him too much by giving him too much personal space and he is dreading staying at my hs after the baby comes. I dont interact with his family that often but without fail when I go over to his house, his mum will always ask him if he is staying home or gg home with me as if she is afraid her son will be separated from her. She would keep quiet if my husband is coming over to my hs. I am pregnant for goodness sake, isnt it only right that my husband is with me? Also my sil, 40yo, who is single with no kids loves to keep asking me when am I going to go back to work, why am I not signing up for sports activities since Im very free, and commenting on my weight and size now that I am starting to have a baby bump. Its not like I wont be returning to the workforce after I deliver. Its quite annoying when I all I need now is rest and recuperation for the arrival of our baby. She doesn’t understand that I get sever cramps and aches in my pelvis and spine from this pregnancy. During today’s father’s day dinner, we went to a fancier restaurant (my husb paid) and after dinner my sil asked me if the food is good. I said yes, and she replied doesnt mean its expensive and free for you, means that the food is good. What does that even mean?? I buy them food and bring them out occasionally too. My husband feels like Im overthinking with what they say. Worse still he even asks me if it is necessary to stay with me all the time after I deliver. He is a husband that tries his best in fulfilling things that I request but sometimes I feel really frustrated with his family and him. Not sure if its the hormones… 😮‍💨

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For the first part on your PIL, I don’t think the issue is big yet. Just need to tahan 1 year. Your sil is the bigger problem. For me, if my husband wants to stay at his and I don’t want to, I would just stay seperately then. However, after giving birth, baby will stay with ME. You wanna visit, you come over. For your sil, I will just tell her I have my own plans, don’t need her to worry. She can worry about her own brother if she really have nothing to kpo about. Even if you wanna badmouth about me to your brother go ahead, as long as your brother don’t bother me with it. I never use your money, never use you egg, why do you need to kpo whether I wanna work or not. If my husband can feed me, even if I wanna stay home shake leg 24/7 also 不轮到你来讲. I would have asked her back the same thing, if her reply is the same as you, use it back at her. If her reply is no, then tell her “people pay for you, you eat free and expensive food still want to comment this and that, be appreciative.” Or if you want to be meaner (if your budget allows), pay your own portion right in her face and tell her, food is good. It’s not free btw. I would stop buying food for your sil. If wanna go together, ask her to pay for her own portion. If you cannot appreciate, then you don’t deserve it. Don’t let your sil bully you. Like you’re just a sil, not even pil…. You kpo and talk so much for what… got time to kpo about me… might as well use the time to go and find bf and get married. I used to be like tofu, after I gave birth, I realized…. Some people really no need give face else they dk when to stop.

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