I think it depends on what as a person you want. What I feel that in a situation like yours, the sole decision is on your liking of the idea or not. If the feeling of accompanying him is there in your heart, you will anyway follow him, no matter how confused you are about your daughter's settlement. And if you do not want to go, no matter how many times some one will tell you that kids adapt easily, you will not go. Hahaha... May be I am wrong also, but this is what I would have done in your situation. If you are comfortable in your space, be there. May be you can let your husband settle down, and can accompany him next year.
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