Mums, how do you refrain from comparing your kids? I find it tough to not say things like "Look at your brother, he reads so much, you haven't picked up a book in ages".

I try my best to avoid comparing my 2 kids, by focusing on what they do, instead of their behaviours (lazy, naughty, bad, cheeky and etc.). If you focus on the behaviour you will end up comparing them. For your example on reading books, you can tell your kid: would you like to read some books since you have not reading for some times already? When my no.1 refused to eat, I will tell him, you need to eat more to grow healthy, instead of why you so picky on food and look at your brother he eats more than you.