My husband and I talked about this and made a parenting decision that we don’t want to be too strict about routines as we still want to spend time with our families and friends, and not have to rush home by a certain timing.
We will put baby in carrier when it’s her bedtime and she will sleep through until we are home :) and yes, sometimes we have to bear with the crying if we wake her up to wipe down when we are home.
If the gathering is at our house, I will excuse myself to the room to wipe her down and put her to bed, and join the gathering again when she settles.
I believe it’s a decision you and your husband has to decide, no right or wrong, whatever fits your lifestyle.