Postpartum engorgment & constipation

Hi mummies :) I gave birth on 27 Jan and have yet to pass motion. Is it normal? I am drinking plenty of water, eat stool softener but no sign of 💩. Maybe it’s just nerves😫 Also am suffering from sudden engorgement, pumped and latched my newborn best I can but the boobs is still big and like hard?? I read that it’s normal however just wanna know if other mums have experienced this and maybe provide some tips to ease this phase.