It takes trust between two. Maybe you can tell your husband the way i already explained to my husband about letting me know where he goes to and with who? In case of emergency at home with regards to the kids, i need to inform him. If he were to block my call and ignore me, what if something bad was really happening at home? Moreover we have elderly people at home. Things will literally happen ANY minute. So he can't be ignoring your calls. Secondly, the reason WHY i need to know where you are and who you are with. In case you aren't home the whole night, you are out of reach, Something happened to you? Road Accident? At least i can call someone who you would be with. To at least know you are safe and sound.. Sit down and slowly talk to your husband about this issue.
First and foremost you will need to understand why your husband is "blocking" your call. Honestly speaking when my husband is at work, I try to minimise messaging and calling him because it becomes a distraction to work. And even if I do message him or coyntact him, he may not reply until much much later. Not because he is being irresponsible or ignoring me but it's due to the nature of his work. He is constantly having back to back meetings, on calls etc try to talk to him and ask him why he is ignoring your calls. listen to his explanation before blowing up or getting angry. many times we don't realise our actions and the words will hurt them and they end up being more "secretive" to us
n he doesn't look for his family or call me everyday. he is the sort of like he is satisfied or "egocentric" person that I am the one always looking for him n update him about me n baby. his calls to me is only once or twice per week even if it was after his werk he doest bother to look n call us his family. I can understand my husband despite us living away fm each other but he juz don't bother much bout his family here (me n baby).
Hmm when I started reading your post I tot hey that sounds like my husband Except he does not purposely block but rather he is busy at work or with something. I don't think he should be blocking you on msgs and calls because if something is urgent how will you be able to contact him? I will be very angry and tell him firmly he shouldn't do it. Besides what is he doing behind your back like you said. Between couple there shouldn't be secrets. I really think you need to tell him to change this firmly and if he doesn't see if talking to someone close to him like a friend or family member and ask them to talk to him?
I wished he's not keeping any secret but he will coz wen he wants to go out he won't tell me where he go. he wants me to be honest with him as a wife I told him werave I go but he juz too ego or ashamed to tell me were he go especially if it's with his frenz he won't answer nowadays at all coz he paiseh with his frenz. I have to kol him to find out were he is. for now we not living with each other coz of his werk. my baby wit me n I take care alone so it's hard to get him should emergency anythg
Sorry to say, but from what you have said above, it sounds like there's something fundamentally wrong in your marriage. The basic communication and support is not there. You need to do something to change his behaviour. It's absurd for a husband not to look for his wife and child. He is now a father n husband. Not a single man anymore. Is he even spending time with his boy? If not, ur boy is like growing up without a father?
I believe you should sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him cos in the long run the one who is going to suffer is you. If need be, do seek marriage counselling. His perception of marriage maybe different from yours. Embarrassment and ego are 2 did issue and it shouldn't be hindering your trusting relationship with him.
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