Divorce or Try to make it work?

Question

We are married for more then 10 years and we had a 10 year old child. I am Singaporean and he is french. 8 months ago I found out that he is having an affair with a bar hostess in CQ.We been there a couple of times and I warned him about her as well. I could literally see her evil intention! I found out about them early this year and have a copy of their WhatsApp archives.  I am so broken and drained, I am in pain. He wants to stay in the relationship but I am so tired and disgusted by his acts. How do I love him again? How do I forgive him? How do I trust him again? How do I stop thinking? His affair is mentally torturing me everyday. He told me he has no more contact with that hostess but how can I be certain? For now, I am staying put for my daughter.  Thinking maybe I should grind my teeth, let go of the hurt and provide her a happy family but I am currently feeling helpless and I felt like I am already at the edge giving up. Have been trying to get a job but it’s not easy after 10 years of not working.  Feeling lost..

Vô danh · Answer

No easy answers here. You need time to think this through. It may not seem like it but you are not helpless. We all have freewill to choose our next steps. Find someone you can talk to. Focus on positive small steps for now. Something good for you and your child. Dont lose hope. You are precious and much more than what you feel now or how others treat you