Treated and felt like an outsider

Inlaw and my hub's sibling has always treated me as an outsider, despite even when we are married. However, it is due to my pregnancy that im carrying a baby boy and now my in law are trying to get closer to me. But that only makes me feel uncomfortable. Argh... having to know their motive, it just makes me feel so uneasy. I rather we stick to how we were in the past which is more natural. ? Anyone has the same problem?

lin

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Same. MIL and I hardly talk after she scolded me 3 times. Expect me to be like her which is to be housewife after married, but quite impossible for me since I can still work and earn money, why would I want to be housewife. Expect me to do all the housework while her daughter can don't do anything. Even weekends also purposely slam the cabinet and door early in the morning to make sure I wake up and do housework. Now that's I'm 5 months, she appear to be kind and helpful towards me, ask me if I crave for anything and she can cook for me. Basically I don't need her to do all these, best is she can leave me alone. Might seems like I don't appreciate her kind gestures, but I just don't want to have anymore conflicts with her anymore.

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pillowbao

mother of two angels

5y trước

Sorry to hear tat.. but I feel our baby will know who Ill-treated their mummy when they r still in our tummy.. when they r born, they will not be close to the in laws..

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Maybe its coz now everyone has a common topic(: I guess it's better that they are nicer to you now even though there may be a motive. Stay strong and be positive(:

lin

just me

5y trước

Its not about being positive or negative. I have already also accepted them as being outsider as well, so the change is weird for me

Hemm.. what make u feel they treated u as an outsider? BTW since they trying to change will be good for u to accept

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lemongrass

Excited to become a mum

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To be honest, after all their drama towards me, I don't want my baby to have anything to do with in laws. I don't want them to say that despite them being nasty to me, I still need their help with baby etc. I did rather put infant care. I know is a spiteful thought, but why would I want to leave my baby with someone that treat me badly.

I would think for the good of your son, maybe you should just pretend that you are ok with them ba.

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Vô danh

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I know it might be tiring, but you wont want your son to have no one to depend on when he need help. So i always think whatever the case is, just wear a mask lor. Don't want to be disrespectful to them too, cause our kids is looking and mimicing us. You are doing a great job 😁

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