Confinement lady or mom's help?

I'm considering whether there's a need to hire a confinement lady. Basically I want to take the first mth to really learn from someone experienced on taking care of baby and breastfeed etc, and help to cook proper meals as well. I believe my mom is more than willing to be around during the first few months after birth to help out in any way i ask. However my mom's not an experienced cook nor did she tk care of any grandchildren before, so I feel half hearted to have her to cook confinement recipes, do marketing, washing and all while caring for baby all by herself. Nor will she be staying overnight, would be so tiring! (I know there's also an option of ordering tingkats, I'm open to that too!) Was wondering if anyone has hired confinement lady before and at the same time have mom's extra pair of hands to help out at home? Ideally to also learn from confinement lady and 2nd mth onwards mom could help out further! Would love to hear your experiences or suggestions! #advicepls #1stimemom #firstbaby

Vô danh

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If u have the budget for a confinement nanny and can still find one that’s available, I would say yes, do it! Personally, I find it can be tricky with ones own mum or MIL when u want something done a certain way and they get offended. Better to keep that boundary and if they wish to come by and visit and play w the baby or help out as and when, then so be it. Also overnight help is crucial so u can get some rest. Confinement food and herbal drinks / soup are also impt for recovery, tho u are right that u can get Tian Wei for eg. I am a FTM mum 34 half weeks now and even in my second mum I couldn’t find an available freelance confinement nanny so I went with PEM. If u choose the confinement nanny route, don’t delay and get one booked asap even w agencies ❤️

Shan

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thanks thanks. totally agree with you, that is what I'm afraid of to. May I ask how was your experience engaging pem, how was the process like? like what qns should I ask or should I share any special requirements or smth so that they can assign someone suitable for me? totally clueless, hope you could share more :)

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