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Has he properly thought this through? Guys tend to take movie culture references at face value, but there is a lot more to be considered as a couple. What if you guys cannot conceive after the abortion? How would this affect your relationship and emotional well-being in future? Is this a decision you may regret in future? It is not an easy decision and it will be life changing, so do take your time to research, talk to doctors about the risks and think this through properly so you can tell your future self you had done your best and made the best choice under the circumstances. Whichever decision you choose is a respectable one, as long as you can own it with pride. There is a cutoff time before abortion is practicable so do bear that in mind too.
I was never a kid person but my hubby love kids. Being a first time mum, i accepted what was gifted to me. Never in my mind i tot of abortion although i didnt like kids. I had a bumpy first trimester having bleeding heavily dur to a tear till i had to be on duphaston n later on jabbed to stabilize my pregnancy. Ltr on i was told i have low fluid (prob not ideal to my gynae) and was put on hl for a month (i continued to wfh on days i was really bored coz i cant slp much). I m also in my 30s. No doubt at times i get irritated by my girl’s cries.. at times she is really sweet.. love seeing the smiles n sometimes they hold on so tight to u.. the love… i nv regret..
My sister was exactly the same like you. her daughter father didn't want the baby when she told him she was pregnant with his child. my sister thought of aborting the child. but my father reassure her & ask her to give birth to the baby. now, my niece is 10 years old going 11 soon. please dun think of abortion no matter how tough your life is. it's ok to be a single mum, we woman dun need man to survive! you will be ok, trust yourself. every baby is a gift from god. wait till the day you hold your baby in your arms, you will feel that keeping your baby will be one the best decision you made in your life.
He’s being really irresponsible. After the whole process of doing it, then he realised baby is not what he wants? He’s never ready in the first place and never will be. You should decide for yourself and trust that you can take care of the baby on your own. Babies are miracles, I have friends who miscarried and are still trying to conceive. This is a gift from above, and the baby is innocent. Don’t let him take this life away from you, the baby deserves to live. Hope you will seriously consider because it’s a life and you had a part in this baby too. Bless you !
I assume he’s in his 30s as well? If he’s not ready now, when will he be ready? To me, what he said is incredibly selfish. I don’t think any of us is truly ready for parenthood and many of us wing it as we go. This is your baby too, I think you should have a say in whether or not to keep the child. If you need support and clarity, please reach out to friends/family/counsellor to help you reach a decision. If you need someone to be a sounding board, I’m more than happy to lend a ear. Just dm me on ig. Take care!
For me I would never support Abortion, you must be strong and take care yourself I feel like if he is not ready now so when will he ready? If he really willing , money is not a problem, you both just need to work way out of it Money can find but Precious baby in your tummy is cannot find else where 🙂 the guilty feeling will follow you forever i know you can pregnant again if you want but it will be different You are at your 30 I believe you have your own thinking also Please think carefully , take care and rest well 💪🏻
no judgment. follow your conscience. i had trouble conceiving and had to do IVF to conceive a child. now im week 36 and i feel very blessed feeling my baby kicking and moving. i cant describe how blessed i feel. i am also a career woman and i dont think having a child will postpone my career plan. wfh now is so common. you also need a supportive partner during pregnancy because its not easy doing everything on your own. but i will encourage you to talk to a counsellor before you make a decision.
I will suggest you to keep the baby as I’m in my 30s too. And I try 1 year plus to get pregnant. I’m now at 17 weeks. I’m so happy when I found out that I’m pregnant. Is not easy to get pregnant as you think. We are not longer young and easy to conceive. And I got few friend trying for 2 years also haven’t get pregnant . But at the end, is your choice to keep or abort. No one can stop you with your decision. Just don’t regret what u choose . 🙂
Honestly speaking, no one is ever ready when having a baby. But, there something we call responsibility. Leave the guy. Continue the pregnancy. It's worth to have a little one who wants nothing but to be with you always. You'll learn things you never thought you will. I have a baby girl now who's very sweet and always clinging to me. She showed me a new world. Being a parent is not an easy task but, all of the hardships and sacrifices are worth it.
Honestly I can't comment much over your life and decision, but for me, a pregnancy is really a treasure. i have friends who can't get pregnant after years of trying... if you want a baby in future, do think properly about abortion as you might risk yourself at not having baby anymore... and the pressure of aborting a baby may haunt you (not your fiance) for life, it's not easy...