Lesser Intimacy

Same! My sex life has gone out the window ever since I got pregnant with my firstborn. When I was in 3rd tri, we had intercourse 1 month before I popped and then the next one was almost 3 months later reason being I had emergency c-sect so had to be more careful. After that we had intercourse like twice a month or sometimes once a month. It gets dreadful to have intercourse to the point where my husband is not even interested. I’m tired looking after my firstborn and now that I’m pregnant with 2nd, communication has gone down the drain and into the shithole. He’s treating me like a log of wood, a roommate. I’ve caught him with a shitload of porn websites many times since we got married until now. Everytime we have sex, I’m always on top and he’ll cover his face and be like a dead fish. I’ve cried too many times, blamed myself and even regretted my marriage. However I practise patience and istighfar, I tell myself that my husband tak cukup dosa so let him add on more. Biar lah Allah handle dia. Everyday I doa for Allah to jaga his iman. I’ve come to a point where I don’t see happiness in being married to him but happiness in being a mother to my children. I hope you can have a deep heart to heart talk to your husband because once baby is out, things will be more chaotic if there’s no understanding. Good luck and take care.

Hi, my libido decreased too since I’m pregnant. However, I still do initiate sex to keep our intimacy level alive. Whenever my husband initiate sex, I will also go with the flow even my body not into it. Sometimes if really too tired, we just hugged and kiss a lot. This also a form of intimacy with your partner. My libido came back 2 months after my labor and we now still find time to be intimate and make love every week.

My husband and I haven’t had intercourse since we found out we’re pregnant haha. Scared of hurting the baby. There are other ways to maintain intimacy! I think it’s more important to communicate with each other, like what you did in asking your husband.

You are not alone. I’m 15 weeks in now, 0 sex since day 1. Husband just has zero sex drive and it hurts that he has no interest in it even before I get fat and ugly. So if you even have any, it’s a blessing :)

Have u ask your husband what’s the reason for decease in intimacy? Maybe he is just scare to hurt you or the baby. And is not due to the ugliness like what you think.

Hey cheer up! Maybe you can talk to him and make him understand that sex is actually good to help induce labor naturally. It wont hurt the baby!

its ok babe! intimacy can be in other ways, soon u guys can try again!