Why is it that my husband keeps prioritizing his family and their advices over mine? What am I then?

Question

I was wondering how should i approach him on this matter. He is very short tempered and quickly taken aback if i mentioned about his family especially mother. Im so sick and tired of that old lady. She also has the habit of complaining to my husband about anything that has got to do with me in it. Whatmore, my husband will be bringing her over to stay with us when we get a house later  but dont know when. Zzz. Where is my full privacy then?! #latenightrant

Zenna · Accepted Answer

Sometimes, this happens not because your husband doesn’t value you, but because he may be used to relying on his family’s opinions from before marriage. Old habits and family dynamics can take time to shift. But that doesn’t mean your thoughts matter any less. You’re his partner, and your perspective should absolutely be part of the decisions you both make. It might help to have a calm, honest conversation with him, definitely not in the heat of the moment, and share how this makes you feel, rather than framing it as him choosing “them over you.” For example, letting him know you’d feel more supported if decisions were discussed together first. At the same time, try to understand what his family’s advice means to him too. Finding that middle ground is important in marriage.