Why is it that my husband keeps prioritizing his family and their advices over mine? What am I then?

Hugs mama, that sounds really tiring 😔 Honestly, a lot of guys grow up very used to listening to their family, especially their mum, so sometimes they don’t even realise how it comes across to us. But it doesn’t mean your feelings are less important. You’re his partner, not second place. Since he’s short-tempered, maybe try bringing it up when things are calm, not during an argument. And instead of saying it’s about his mum, frame it around how you feel, like 'I feel unheard' or 'I wish we could make decisions together first.' For the living together part, I think that one really needs a proper conversation early. It’s not a small thing, and your comfort and privacy matter too. You don’t have to fight his family, but you do need him to see you as his main team now. That part is important. You’re not wrong to feel this way ❤️

Sometimes, this happens not because your husband doesn’t value you, but because he may be used to relying on his family’s opinions from before marriage. Old habits and family dynamics can take time to shift. But that doesn’t mean your thoughts matter any less. You’re his partner, and your perspective should absolutely be part of the decisions you both make. It might help to have a calm, honest conversation with him, definitely not in the heat of the moment, and share how this makes you feel, rather than framing it as him choosing “them over you.” For example, letting him know you’d feel more supported if decisions were discussed together first. At the same time, try to understand what his family’s advice means to him too. Finding that middle ground is important in marriage.