idk how else to contain my anger……..

For me, I can put up with everything but when it comes to the wellbeing and safety of my baby, I won’t give way. After being a mom, I’m no longer a softie so if she’s gonna say stuffs like the above “ask her full time take care of baby”, be sure that would be the last time she sees her grandson. I pretty sure know it’s my responsibility so don’t threaten me with it. Afterall if she do realize, if I am to covert into a full time SAHM, all the financial responsibilities falls on HER SON until baby goes to school. Anyways, if my husband don’t talk to his mother, I will do it myself. If you don’t like it then it’s your problem, I’ve made my point and I stand by it. And if your husband were to blame you for being rude or whatsoever, tell him “YOU were the one who wanted me to talk to her isn’t it? Then don’t complain.” I personally cut out my mil for a few months until she apologized first, ever since, she stopped all her nonsense and so far 2 years now, all good. I’m not trying to be rude or what but I believe respect works both ways. Just because I’m a 晚辈 does not mean I have to give in to you everytime, sorry but it doesn’t work this way so don’t use your MIL authority to morally kidnap me.

omg this is so frustrating. i can imagine my husband being like tt too. he doesnt talk back to his parents as he think is rude. and worse my husband doesnt talk much to his parents in the first place! so i cannot imagine getting my MIL to take care my baby nxt time. she dun even rmb wat fruits my husband doesnt eat. lol. if really need to i will only ask my mum and sisters to help, and they stay near me. at least i can "nag" at them if they did smth wrong. i will only bring my baby to visit my inlaws on sunday only. i also dun trust my inlaws in teaching/bringing up the baby although they have 3 boys. the 3 brothers doesnt talk to one another since young? they are more like strangers? and they have really bad habits. i duno how my inlaws can allow this to develop since young? so im really worried abt my baby's development if my inlaws is going to take care of my baby.

DAMN GURL MIL IS ALWAYS SOMETHING ELSE I FEEL YOUUU!! Just reading this infuriates me so badly. Ya it doesnt affect all baby but it affects MY BABY. Dont anyhow feed my baby. Atleast ask me first, damnit. And what even your husband. He’s the one that should be firm and sound his own mother. Cause if it comes from her own son, some chance she would listen. No hate but in all honesty, i wouldnt trust leaving my baby with her. You never know what she would feed the baby. Theyll always follow their old times ya ya ya move on from your old times. Better ask your husband to be stern before anything bad happens to your baby’s gut or stomach as its not fully developed and may not be able to accept some things

It leaves you at the weaker side cause you need her help to look after the baby. It’s either you stop letting her do it and seek alternatives, or, you suck it up, or, you confront her and don’t care anymore even if it ends up badly. You have tried reasoning and it doesn’t work, so how about moving on a different path? Hire a helper? Hire a day time nanny? Send baby to ifc? One of you become full time stay home parent? Btw, your husband is such a wuss for not standing up for all this.

I think you should take a stand and in the meantime, look for other alternatives such as ifc. acknowledge her love for your baby and gently remind her the severity of her actions might cause the baby harm instead.

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