Anyone living with mil and have a amicable relationship with her?

Hmmm are you her first DIL? She feels awkward and frankly seems to be treating you as a stranger still instead of "her new daughter". Is she overly conscious of herself/scared of crossing you, and hence just wants to avoid interaction with you? How long had you known her, and do you reach out to chat daily? Sharing my exp, I met my hubs and got married in just a year, so I was fairly new to the household. I'm from a very different background (I can't cook or clean for nuts but doing quite well career-wise) so I think my ILs were quite wary of me, maybe worried I would judge or get culture shock. Like I notice they are quite polite in their interactions, and would ask permission for little things. They tend to speak through my hubs too if there's any advice they want to dispense. I try to be super open and put down my guard, roll up my sleeves to help whenever I can, and also try to chirp in whenever our opinions are experiences are in line. We are a lot friendlier now and they feel comfortable to call me directly if they need help or can't get my hubs. It may be a completely diff situation but if she's not reaching out maybe you could take the initiative to break the ice? It's awkward to be strangers under the same roof. It'll be great for both of you if you could move out soon too, she may also just be adapting really badly to cohabiting so it'll reduce the stress for both of you. Hang in there and be careful in the kitchen!

Hello Hun, I hear you and feel your frustrations. Staying with MIL will have its ups and downs. May i ask, are you the only daughter inlaw? It's hard to comprehend what our elderly is feeling and thinking. They are probably just adapting to changes around the house and is not clear on how or what to do right. They wont admit it but they are actually not sure of their actions either. My advice is to focus on what makes you happy and calm during the pregnancy. With regards to how she is treating you, dont sweat it so much just focus on you and your marriage. Your hubs is also in a difficult position. After all that is his mother, so of cos he will want both the ladies in his life to get along. Avoid comparing how she treats him vs how she treats you. It will never be the same (i know it too well 🤪). Tolerence is the only way to get through this. In time she and you will be able to adapt to eachothers character. For me, i choose to see ONLY the good in my MIL and brush of the rest. That is the only way for me to stay happy and develop love for her.