I feel that I m so emotionally dependent on my husband that whenever we have a fight and not on talking terms, I feel extremely low that I don't feel like doing anything.. I get super depressed. Also my husband is not at all pampering sorts which is one of the reasons I get annoyed with him. How do I deal with this and wat shift I do to keep myself going in such situations so that my daily routine doesn't get affected.

Hi, Firstly I think you should accept the fact that your husband nature is such that he won't pamper or cuddle you. It is not that he doesn't pamper you intentionally but the fact that his nature is such. So, when you accept this, thing will become easier for you. May be he feels immense love and care for you but because of his nature he is resting all his emotions inside him. Also, women on the other hand are softer as compared to men and more than anything else they are carried away by love and emotions. So, it is but natural that you get emotionally affected and dependant on him. But, now that you know his nature, you should change yourself. Since, changing him is something that he himself can do and you cannot force him. So, I think you must indulge yourself in some activity, or start working if you are already not and keep your mind engaged. When mind is engaged in something then it doesn't take too much pressure. You will be busy and will whole day not sit and brood if things are not going on fine between you two. And when you will not be too much involved this way, chances are your husband will too take a note of it and would put in efforts to make things work. Now, he knows that you are weak as in emotionally too dependant on him so he may be taking you for granted at times. Also, in a relationship there comes many times when you fight and things are not working fine, and if you will be so emotionally dependant on him, you will keep thinking all day and it can make you stressed and can lead to illness. I suggest pick up some hobby or activity or anything that you like to do, so that you have something of your own to fall back upon. Where your energies are put so that you do not stress yourself over such issues.