How not to be affected my someone’s expectation of our baby’s gender.

I dowanna say who but it’s always that person when it comes to us women. Haha. I dowanna rant but i have to. So like husband and i are verryyyy happy that we are having a girl. We already have a boy. This is my fourth pregnancy and this is the second time this person is disappointed that we’re having a girl. This person’s time is over and had many sons. Whyyyyyyyy is this person expecting that i have sons as welllllllll. And then wont contain the disappointment when we revealed that it’s not a boy. I just wish this person never have to know the gender before baby is born and spoil my mood and pregnancy joy. But theres no way i can hide this pregnancy. Aaaarghhhhh!!!!!!!!

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Hais. I'm sorry that you're subjected to such old fashioned thinking, and that's even after already having a boy. Unfortunately, there's nothing much you can do. Old people's mindsets regarding gender preferences are already fixed, there isnt anything you can do to change it. Just keep away from this person as much as you can (hard as it is), and try not to take her opinions to heart. Men need women to procreate, so unless men can do it themselves, having girls is absolutely necessary. And girls are more caring to their parents in general. Have pity that this person probably didnt experience that coz of the overwhelming bias for boys.

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Thank you so much for your kind reply. I kept crying quietly and felt soo bothered by that incident. The first thing this person asked was it's a boy right because the shape of my belly looks like baby's a boy. And there my husband and i had to explain why we love it's gonna be a girl etc but this person just dismissed it without saying anything like a next of kin would. When my son was born, (my secondborn) this person would announce to everyone in d event that my sons the first to carry the familys name and is so proud. Not the same as when my girls were born. I was soooooooo annoyed that i told this person my girls carry the familys name too. I even told my husband if my girls cant be recognised as part of his family last name, i dowan any of my children carrying it in their names. This old traditional concept is bs and our generation is stuck with it. I was actually already in my happy girl era, wanting to buy many flowery rompers and headbands and then bam!! Here we go again!

I actually hid my pregnancy and went into hiding until i gave birth because it was slightly complicated. Only my side of the family knew. That being said now the comment is go have another baby - boy when I am trying to survive life with a baby less than 1 year old with just hubby and no help.

Can let her know that baby’s gender is determined by her son’s sperm so its her son’s “fault” its not a boy 🤭

Ofcourse non other than the problematic MIL😂

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