I don't like it when my mil n sil share utensils with my 1 year old . They would often use the spoon or fork that they have used to eat their meal to feed my LO with a few spoonfuls of rice or meat. I find it so unhygienic! Even I don't use the spoon that I have used to feed my young child . I told my mil n sil once but I think my mil got offended n say ," why ? My saliva is poison is it ?" Faint !

I am very straightforward de, my mil used to do it too. She wanted to feed my children some biscuits so I told her it is too big; she might want to half it first before giving to her. She bite it into half and give the other to my girl when she is coughing. I will tell her nicely but if she give me excuse like, "I am her Grandmother why cannot share or my saliva got poison is it?" I will stare at her and tell her out loud "Yes". I rather being the bad guy than putting my kids at risk. I found out being nice don't work well with some old people! I have tried talking nicely or jokingly, sharing news report, let PD/expert do talk but none work. Only Honesty will do the trick.