I developed a hatred for my MIL ever since the birth of my son. Nothing good comes out from her mouth as Chinese believes that we should say the negative to kids so they will grow to be the opposite of the meaning. For example telling the baby he is so skinny, he has no hair, he is naughty etc just so that they will turn out the opposite. I am not a believer of such myths. Ever since then (during the confinement period), I started to avoid her and have not greeted her or talk to her since. It has been 3 years but each time I think about the episode, I just feel very angry and my heart boils. How can I get pass myself so that I can start talking to her again just like before?

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Perhaps her thinking is more traditional and she genuinely does believe that children cannot be praised. I've had relatives who shush me when I tell them that my girl is an easy baby as they too believe that babies aren't supposed to listen to praises. -_- Honestly, I don't know the logic behind this, but if you can sense she has good intentions, you can try opening up to her.

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Home Random Talk i developed a hatred for my mil ever since the birth of my son nothing good comes out from her mouth as chinese believes that we should say the negative to kids so they will grow to be the opposite of the meaning for example telling the baby he is so skinny he has no hair he is naughty etc just so that they will turn out the opposite i am not a believer of such myths ever since then during the confinement period i started to avoid her and have not greeted her or talk to her since